8.07.2014

A Letter To My Husband After 32 Years

I still remember the first time I saw you at that lake somewhere in Oklahoma.  I told my friend, "I'm going to marry that guy."  At the time I thought I was joking but little did I know those words would come true.

I decided that we would date and naturally with me being a high school girl and you being in college, I decided that our relationship would come to a usual end when you went back to school at the end of summer to forget all about me.  I planned a summer of fun and then I would move on to whatever life had.  This time I didn't have things figured out quite right because you came home to see me every single weekend without fail.  I know I said no the first time you asked me but it was because I just couldn't quite understand why things weren't working according to my plan.  I hadn't learned yet that I didn't know everything.

I think it was your loyalty that I fell in love with (after the good looks and big muscles...tee hee)  You have always been true and you have always been loyal and that counts for so much to me.  It is also because you chose me out of all the others.  It was me that you loved and you have stayed true to that all these years, even when I wasn't so lovable. I think the laughter through the years was the cherry on top...you have always been able to make me laugh even though most of the time I was shaking my head at the same time.  Laughter has been good medicine through the years.


You have always asked why I have stayed with you all these years and the funny thing is that I have always wondered the same thing about you.  My answer to your question is, "That is what we are supposed to do when we make a commitment.  I know that isn't the popular answer but when I said "I do"  I really did mean it and I still mean it today."


We have had our ups and downs and even our left and rights but in the end we have always been able to find each other in the middle and find a way to keep trying.  I don't think there is anything special about why we made it so many years when so many others didn't except that we kept trying.  We kept on trying to work through the kinks and work through the disagreements.  We kept on trying to keep the fire going and we didn't let any others keep us from that.  We kept on trying even when we were knocked down by life.  In the end I think that continuing to try and try and try again is the answer to a long happy marriage.


If asked, the answer would be "Yes!  I would say yes again."  I would definitely do it all again with you.  I love you as much and even more than the first time 32 years ago when I said yes (I'm really glad I didn't run away in that Jeep).  I can't imagine life without you and I hope I never have to.  I hope we get to keep on keeping on from now till the day we step into eternity.  Yes, I want to keep eating cheap tacos every anniversary with you!  You are my life mate and, "You are everything I never knew that I always wanted."


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5 comments:

Larry Howard said...

Well Sweetheart you did it again. You made me tear up with your words and touched my heart. I love you and I am ready to sign on for another 32.

FlowerLady Lorraine said...

God's continued blessings on the both of you. Congrats on your first 32 years. Commitment, love, forgiveness, communication, encouragement, laughter all make a marriage work. I know, I had 43 years with my dear husband.

Love and hugs to you ~ FlowerLady

Stacey said...

Debbie, this is so sweet. I hope he reads every word. ♥

TexWisGirl said...

happy anniversary, mr and mrs howard!

Jann Olson said...

Debra what a sweet letter to your husband! Loved the story and I know exactly what you are talking about. I feel the same way about my hubby. A fun side note is that my mil said the exact thing when she saw my fil for the first time.
hugs,
Jann