In the beginning, I started this blog because I had something to say. I know it must seem odd, but sometimes I really do not have anything to say...well, that isn't quite right, I always have something to say, it just isn't always good. My parents always taught me that if I don't have anything good to say then don't say anything at all. Those words have served me well in my lifetime.
I have learned the hard way about the wisdom of those words. It used to be because I didn't want my mouth to get me in trouble in some way that I needed to heed those words. As I have grown older, it is because I truly do not want to do harm to others, to the situation, or to myself, that I try to listen to those words. When I was younger it was easy to give people a piece of my mind when they hurt me or angered me, but that was not right or wise. It never really made me feel better and it really, only served to put more fuel on the very fiery feelings that I was trying to get rid of by expelling them onto others. I can not remember one single instance where doing so gave me advantage in any way whatsoever. It didn't make me stronger, It definitely didn't make me feel better or look better to others; and it did not accomplish one positive thing.
I know now that it is better to keep my mind for myself and instead to exhibit self control over my tongue. I have found similar truth in the Scriptures. Words really can do harm to others (I don't care what that sticks and stones saying says). I would lay odds that every single one of you have been harmed by words from another. How would your life have been different if those harmful words had been different? What if instead, those words had been encouragement or positive in some way that inspired you to do greater things?
I am not always able to speak encouraging words that build up others in certain situations because I am still a work in progress. Because I do not want to harm or hinder even those who would want to harm me, I choose instead to say, nothing at all. I know how hard that can be. I am not always perfect in that endeavor (in fact I have failed many times) but I have decided that it is a goal that I want to achieve. I want to be thought of as a person who, when given the opportunity to get even with those who have done her harm, spoke words of affirmation or if unable to do that, had nothing to say